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Monday, June 4, 2012

Words of Wisdom from my MOM!

Sometimes I think I'm not doing a good enough job - ever feel like that? you compare your mothering skills to other mothers and wonder if you're doing enough, or the right thing. You think "oh I should do that" or "I need to be like that mom".
One area that I always feel bad about is rocking my kids before bed! I don't know about you but it seems like I'm the only mother in the world that just cannot wait to lay them down, and get my kids into bed as soon as I can! sometimes I feel bad about that and think, oh I should rock them more or read for longer etc.
But then I remembered - just about every day my kids wake up from naps (they wake up at different times) and spend at least 10 min each just sitting with me cuddling and slowly waking up!
That's my "cuddle' time with my kids! Then it got me thinking. -
We need to stop trying to compare ourselves to what other's do! Just be the mom you're going to be. Love your children with your whole heart! Show them the love (in your own way), and love them deeply. It will look different in every family dynamic.
One thing my mom said when my firstborn was just a tiny baby is "you're the only mother he has ever known, so everything you do is perfect to him" (at least until he's 13, right?!)  I have told many other new moms this! And I remind myself of it daily!
I truly believe that most moms are trying their best, doing what they know is best, and loving their kids the best they know how. We all battle selfishness! but we all are battling it and aware of the pull it has on us!
So step back!

ENJOY your kids, LOVE your kids!
and relax about what others do or think!!!!

5 comments:

Trina Mayfield said...

I had to go and read this one to see what your mother told you!:-) I do remember saying it and it's so true! You are the BEST mother for your 2 boys and no one else can do it any better than you!!!!! I love reading your blog and learning and growing with you!

Michelle said...

well said, Jess. And of course, your Mom speaks wonderful words of wisdom to you! I'm so glad you (and her) are in my life so I can benefit from the thoughts the Lord gives you!! What a blessing you are, even across the miles!!!

The Kurty Story; From my point of view said...

It really is SO tempting to compare and think that I'm not as good as so and so, or i should be more like so and so!! I totally get that!!! Thank you for the encouragement to just be the best mother you know how to be, your kids love you for you and as long as you love them with your whole heart, care for them the best you know how, and pray daily for wisdom, strength, patence, I think you will do alright :-) Love ya!!!

BeckyG said...

Hi Jessica! Great post, so true. I enjoyed seeing pics of your family.

BeckyG said...

p.s. We've both come so far since being kids together in Caluma. =)

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